If it was not first true genuine friendship.In my opinion,it cannot morph into a true,healthy love union.In other words, it's the friendship,plain and unadulterated that should count.Again,in my opinion.
Nevertheless most relationships especially nowadays kick off contrary to mutual friendship .There are products of mostly only physical attraction and the need to meet inherent desires.Flings as they put it.
Like a man will approach her out of physical attributes alone.And most likely they will expect to be treated out or gifted to formally put down the 'guards' as events continue to unfold.
In the most ideal situation however,as was old school.People meet naturally in a manner or situation even unexpected or unarranged for.That could have been in a function, place of work or school,or any other day to day situations.
Such relationships would kick off as friendships then low key attractions,with every party taking time to learn where the others stand till time and time spent on each other draws them closer and more tighter knit.
Going physical was much lower on the pile of priorities.The relationship stood on the firm ground of openness,trust and the need to understand each other.In such a case ,the two felt very comfortable with each other and love culminating from mutual friendship in its highest form kept blosomming the union.
The result of this were long lasting relationships leading to marriages,which normal tides cacould not break.The kids also enjoyed the love and warmth around,learnt and went on to do exploits as a result of the good foundation back at home.
Funny enough this is not what we see happening today.Two will meet on tinder or any other apps and social media ,exchange contacts and fire the damn thing up.And I'm not necessarily saying it can't or doesn't work for some people.But,in my view,if a long-term engagement is the set objective.Then it misses out on the beauty of loving someone,being patient on them,showing up for them et cetera.It almost like a crash programme with the document to show but missing out really on alot about the journey.
Personally in meeting up strangers, I've meet and continue to meet plenty from social online spaces.Work related and stuffIts an amazing tool yes.But when it's love or whatever you call it then that becomes quite mammoth task for me.I have to do my homework on someone a little bit having seeing them in my real space couple of times before my mind registers some kinds of emotions.Thats could be just how im wired.To minimize the risk of venturing into unknown territory,,wasting time maybe and doing the hard work.And that's just how I choose to approach it.I find it on the high risk side so,unnecessary.Ironicaly i risk high in other ares.
Therefore if you find that special someone.In whose presence you find comfort.Out of how they look,talk,present themselves,treat you and even others hold on,befriend them.The way you are wired could just be saying,hey! behold my confidant,friend,rib etc.
The results of which can be beautiful long lasting,life complementing relationships.Which won't stand in your way with God,career,family and destiny.Such indeed will complement and catapult you into domains and limits unfathomable.It is good if you find that special someone.(ink drained)
